We as a parent always try to find ways how to handle kids’ tantrums, but we never try to find:
What is the cause behind their Tantrum?
I
am sure everyone knows, ‘What tantrums are?’ This is the most common
behavior displayed by all kids, especially seen in toddlers and pre-schoolers.
I
am not a Parenting Professional or a Psychology student but I feel children at
this age should show tantrums because it gives them a platform to express
themselves, their emotions.
They
are kids’.
- They also have expectations from adults or siblings.
- They don’t know what is expected out of them.
- They don’t know how to control their emotions.
- They don’t know how to express them.
- They have no words for their emotions.
This
is the time where we as a parent have to play an important role. We have to
help them to calm down their emotions. Guide them a proper way how they can
express themselves in a manner that is liked and accepted by everyone. Give
their emotions, their feelings a suitable word.
This
is the time to develop bonding between you and your child. This is the time to
make them feel safe and secured. Help them remove the negative feelings that
are dominating their mind. Help them feel relaxed and fresh after throwing out
tantrum.
But
what we as a parent do, just the opposite. We feel they are kids. How
can they show tantrums? We do so much for their upbringing and they are
creating this kind of embarrassing situation for us. We start assuming, 'May be we are wrong
somewhere.' And start yelling and screaming at them and somehow manage to stop
their tantrum.
Which
is not correct? Never stop their tantrum in between. Don’t distract them; let
all the negativism that is there in their mind come out. Let them distress
themselves.
You as a parent have to identify and remove the tantrum
triggers.
Always
remember we are the first role model for our kids. They learn to handle
situations from us. They like to imitate us. So we have to be very careful when
it comes to presenting ourselves in front of them.
Slowly
and steadily as children cross their toddler and pre-school age they start
expressing their feelings and emotions. They have words for their emotions. They are in a better state of
controlling them. Now I am sure they will not make you feel
embarrassed.
If
the situation continues then you need to use ‘Ways to handle child’s tantrum.’
But
before you just need to be sensitive, emotional, humble.......
Being a platform of sharing experience as a parent. I would like to
invite you to share yours in the comment section so that we can help each other
in developing a healthy parent child relationship.
I
am eagerly waiting...
