It is
rightly said, “The most memorable moments in our life are special not
because of the place or time, it’s because of the person with whom we
experience happiness.” Every moment spent with our child is a
memorable one but there are few milestones which especially cherish.
Memories
are joy. They are those crazy, silly things that we do together that invariably
lighten the mood and build a strong relation. In short, memorable moments have
no pre-planned agenda or there is no drama, it is just fun, enjoyment, feeling
of wrapped in the envelope of carefree warmth.
These
moments act as a Family Glue. Many of them are the result of accident or
luck. A famous poet once said, “Life is not measured by the number of
breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away.” Always
invest in people who invest in you. Live for the moment which can’t be put in words.
It is
true, “The most memorable moments in life are the ones you never planned”
but still we can try creating lifetime memories for our younger ones.
Can try
the following to create lasting memories:
Spend quality time with the kids:
What we
do as a parent when it comes to spending time with our kids is we take
them to mall, movie or dinner. But do we actually talk with them? Do we
actually give them freedom to do whatever they want to in a mall or eat
whatever they want to without any restrictions?
I am sure
the answer is NO. We put ‘n’ number of clauses, restrictions, mannerism on
them. Infact we are not spending time with them but actually wasting
their time. With this I don’t mean that we must not take kids for an outing or
meals but it cannot be tagged as spending quality time with them.
According
to me spending quality time means allowing kids to do whatever they want to do,
however they want to do, no restrictions, no ‘NO’, no suggestions (unless asked
for), no clause, no discipline nothing. It should be the ‘Me Time’ or rather
‘We Time’.
I am not
asking to delete mannerism but I am asking you to give them independence, it
may be for 15-20 mins. Out of 24 hrs of mannerism I am sure we can give them
15-20 mins of ‘Me Time’. If they want you to do the same thing, please do it,
see the magic happening.
बच्चे के साथ बच्चे बन जाओ
By doing
this you are not only creating long lasting memories but also building a sense
of freedom, mental stability, confidence, self esteem, sense of responsibility,
sense of ownership, moral development, etc.
Family time:
With modernisation
and both parent working concept, family time is almost vanishing. Joint
families are also rare to be found. So in these circumstances family time is
just near to ZERO.
When it
comes to spending time with the kids, mothers are the ones who spend the
majority time with them. But this is not done kids need warmth and affection
from both, mother and father.
By Family
Time we just don’t mean sitting together we can make it memorable by doing some
activity or cooking or doing some chore together. The benefit of involving are
multifolds. Can plan an outing, a nature walk or a short weekend trip. Dinning
together is also family time.
Indulge
in sports, watching movies, cartoon or playing games. We can even involve in
messy activities like plantation, colouring, best out of waste, etc.
Simply
clicking family pic is also ‘We Time’, ‘Family Time.’
Powerful
feeling a parent can gift to its child; ‘Feeling of being loved and indulged
for no reason.’
Family
time is not only creating a bonding between the child and parent but also with
the siblings if any. This beautiful relation is everlasting and teaches each
other many lessons in life.
Not following rules and regulations:
For my
family Sunday is a ‘Rule Free Day.'
No rules,
No regulations, No routine, No suggestions, No NO.
Try to
exit from the routine web and chill. Relax with your family especially kids. Try
to visualize the life from a different angle.
You can
even make it a ‘Talk free day’, where in everyone is allowed to express
oneself: no hesitation, no limits, no boundations.
Benefit
of having a ‘Talk free day’ is we understand each other better, share each
other’s problem, collectively find solutions and stand united.
Kids may
or may not respond positively but if you take an initiative and try to discuss
about your day, your problems, your tensions; I am sure gradually they will
also do so.
टॉय करके तो देखो
No one is
born perfect.
No one is expert by birth.
It is only through experience that we
learn each day. Parenting By Experience is the platform where in we as parents
share each other’s experience and try to grow a healthy future for our kids.
Which is your favourite memorable moment with your child?
